As a management and leadership consultant to businesses and organizations, Jamie Woolf is an expert in coaching people on how to get things done. But at home, the Oakland mother of two girls, ages 10 and 14, found those lessons fell by the wayside.

“So many moms I talked to felt like they were able to get things done at work, but at home, they felt more like over-burdened servants or drivers or maids than effective, competent leaders,” Woolf says.

The revelation prompted her a decade ago to start Parent Leader, which offers workshops and Web seminars that translate workplace strategies for the home, from how to deal with conflict to how to communicate effectively.

Woolf lays out many of her tips in her book, due out next month, Mom-in-Chief: How Wisdom from the Workplace Can Save Your Family from Chaos (John Wiley & Sons, $22.95).

For more information, visit mominchief.com.

What are some skills you learned at the office that you use at home?

I’m always thinking about: What’s my big-picture goal? For instance, should I be nagging my kids or just do the chore myself? When I remember my big picture goal is to instill responsibility, then I’m going to hold firm and expect them to do it and follow through.

When to step in and step back and how to nurture without micromanaging has become an epidemic both at home and work. If we’re constantly rushing in and rescuing our kids the minute we see them struggle, we’re not giving them the life skills to deal with adversity.

What do parents do well at work but not at home?

I think when we launch a project at work, we’re clear on where we’re trying to go and what success looks like. At home, it’s easy to get lost in the details. What’s the big picture? We want to connect with our kids, build relationships and trust. Even though I’m exhausted and my house is a mess, I sit down and cuddle with my kids. That’s more important to my goal than the house being in perfect order.

What’s your New Year’s resolution?

I decided to do mine early. I start feeling chaos and acting in a way I’m not proud of when we’re rushing out the door in the morning. I told my daughters, ‘Even though it’s dark outside, I’m getting you up a half-hour early.’ You have to be really concrete about what your goals are. It’s not just, ‘We’re not running late anymore.’ It’s, ‘We’re getting up at 6:45.’