When Your Child is the Bully


What do I do if my child is bullying others?

If you know or suspect that your child is bullying other kids, the Stop Bullying Now! program of the U.S. Dept. of Health and Human Services, recommends that you take the following steps.


  • Make it clear to your child that you take bullying seriously and that you will not tolerate this behavior.

  • Develop clear and consistent rules within your family for your children's behavior. Praise and reinforce your children for following rules and use non-physical, non hostile consequences for rule violations.

  • Spend more time with your child and carefully supervise and monitor his or her activities. Find out who your child's friends are and how and where they spend free time.

  • Build on your child's talents by encouraging him or her to get involved in prosocial activities (such as clubs, music lessons, nonviolent sports).

  • Share your concerns with your child's teacher, counselor, or principal. Work together to send clear messages to your child that his or her bullying must stop.

  • If you or your child needs additional help, talk with a school counselor or mental health professional.

Learn How to Talk to Your School Administrators and Staff about Bullying

Source: U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services, Stop Bullying Now!
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