Staying Happily Married on Facebook

By Susan Flynn

Facebook and Your MarriageFor all the perils facing teenagers online, parents need to be wary of their own use of social networking sites. There are stories all the time about married spouses rediscovering old flames or igniting new ones through Facebook. K. Jason and Kelli Krafsky, authors of the new book Facebook and Your Marriage (Turn the Tide Resource Group, 2010; $19.99), offer some advice for keeping those online relationships from crossing the line:

• Never friend any ex-boyfriends or girlfriends. There is nothing beneficial that comes from bringing that attachment into your married life.

• Share user names and passwords. When you are married, you should have no secrets and nothing to hide.

• Don’t rant about the other person in your status update. It doesn’t build trust or foster respect, plus no one wants to read it.

• Say something nice about your spouse on Facebook at least once a week. It’s a nice way to figuratively shout it from the rooftops how much you love this person.

• On your anniversary, change your profile photo to a wedding shot.

• Decide together what you are willing to broadcast about your lives. Don’t wait and find out until after you have crossed the comfort line.

• If your spouse is complaining that you are spending too much time on Facebook, then you are spending too much time on Facebook.

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