Parents: These tips are written for young readers. If your child does not yet read, explain the tips and talk about them together.
Instructions: Try one a day. If you are training for the gold, take two or more. You can enhance them, share them, and get a friend to try one. These tips are grouped by similar activities, so mix them up for variety or run right through them from one to 30, and then reverse the order.
1. Write a note for someone in your house and tell him or her something special. To jazz it up, add decorations.
2. Tell your mom you love her. Try this three different ways without using the word love!
3. Try #2 without using any words. What else works besides a hug or a kiss?
4. Make a happy unbirthday present for someone you care about. This can be a friend or someone in your family.
5. Do something that you know will make someone you love smile.
6. If a question asked could use a “yes, please” as an answer, see how many times in a day you can answer in that way. Give “yeah” a rest for a day.
7. When asked a question requiring “no,” see how many times you can manage to say, “no, thank you.” Go for 10 today.
8. Put a list of your chores on the fridge. One day, without being asked, do them and put a check by the chores you’ve done. See how many days you can keep this up and checked. This is guaranteed to wow your parents.
9. Smile at someone you know. When they smile back, tip your head to let them know you got the smile.
10. Take something to school, for the whole class, that makes the day special – flowers, a poem or brownies. (Check it out with the teacher first to make sure it’s OK.)
11. When you first wake up, before you move, think of one good thing about today. Got two? How many can you share at breakfast?
12. At dinner, ask each person at the table how his or her day was.
13. Call one of your grandparents, a favorite relative or a special friend just to ask how their day was.
14. Make something wonderful to decorate the place where your mom or dad work.
15. When you see a neighbor or someone you know, use their name. Say, “Hi, Mr. Adams.” (Well, only if their name is Adams, otherwise use their real name!)
16. Invent your own special holiday. Create decorations for your holidays and send out cards. Celebrate them with family and friends. Here are a few I like: National Left-Handed Day, to recognize all the lefties I know; Take a Treat to a Neighbor Day; It’s Been Sunny for 10 Days Straight Day; In Hopes of a Snow Day Day!
17. Is there someone in your community who is from a different country? Ask them to show you their homeland on a map. Ask them about their favorite food from home. Watch their faces light up! Everyone loves talking about special things and places.
18. When someone is talking, prove you are listening by looking at him or her and repeating something they’ve told you in your response.
19. Make lists of special dates, birthdays and anniversaries, and post them. It will help you and your family to remember them.
20. In a new situation, like a new class or camp, walk right up to someone who is new too and say, “Hi, my name is ____. I’m new. How about you?” This can be difficult, but the rewards are high.
OK. By now you are able to make up a few tips of your own. Try making up three. Ask your parents to try them for you and let you know how they worked. See if they can give you some new tips too.
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Betsy Weaver, Ed.D., is a founder of the regional parenting publications industry and producer of LocalMom.com and ParentingQA.com. Check these sites for more resources for families.