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A Home Divided
For children of divorce, making the transition from living in one home with both parents, to splitting time between two homes with one parent in each isn't easy. To help things go smoothly for parents and children, the P.E.A.C.E program suggests the following strategies.

For Residential Parents


Remind children to invite the other parent to special events.



Post the access schedule where kids can see it. Be sure kids are ready about half an hour before their non-residential parent arrives so as not to cut into their time together.



Encourage your child to call or write letters to their non-residential parent often.



Encourage kids to share homework or special toys or books with the other parent.


For Non-Residential Parents


Value your time with your children. Don't make use of family or friends as primary caregivers during your visit.



Be on time and call ahead if you are going to be late.



Make your children feel at home in your house by hanging their pictures, displaying their projects and giving them a space of their own.



Familiarize your children with your new neighborhood and help them make new friends.



Communicate with your children regularly by calling or writing often.


Remember that children are not messengers. Parents need to communicate with one another about schedule changes, important events and health and medical issues.




Tracy Peers Pontin


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