Adopted at 52

By Jean Campbell


oNormal>At first I didn’t catch on when members of the group I was traveling with wanted to know whether my granddaughters were my son’s children or my daughter’s. Eventually I realized they were trying to figure out which of my children is in an interracial marriage. My granddaughters are beautiful with their thick black hair and brownish-black eyes and features that reflect their Latino heritage. I have long forgotten that they don’t look related to me.


oNormal>Each time someone asked me about the girls, my granddaughters would look at me and listen intently as I answered. They would smile and nod when I said, “I’m adopted.”


oNormal>Seven years ago, 6-year-old Elena told me that she did not have any grandmas in America and she needed one. I told her that I didn’t have any grandchildren and I wanted them. We decided then and there to adopt each other. Elena’s sister, Maria, was just 1 at the time – too young to be an active part of the adoption scheme that Elena and I worked out. She has grown up knowing me as her American grandma.


oNormal>Elena choosing me as her grandma thrilled me. I know how important and special a grandma can be to a child. My grandmother and I had a wonderful time together. It was a role I wanted and didn’t know I would ever have. My only child was dating someone, but didn’t seem in any great hurry to get married and have children.


oNormal>Elena is about four feet tall, with thick, silky, shoulder-length black hair. Her eyes are so dark brown they are almost black. She has fair skin with a sprinkle of freckles over her nose. She’s in a class for gifted eighth-graders in her school, and she plays violin and takes voice lessons.


oNormal>Early on it became obvious to Elena that desserts were important to me. One day, as Elena and I were sharing a piece of cake, she said, “Grandma, every night I ask God that you never get diabetes because you love treats so much.” I told her that was a great prayer and asked her to keep saying it every night.


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